The power of Letting Go

Hello my fellow bloggers!

It’s been a long time we interacted by our beautiful way of communication via blogs😃. Today’s topic is absolutely different and I learnt it in 2021 though, I have been trying from a long time.

Anyways, let’s start with today’s topic.

I know it’s difficult to move on from someone with whom you feel loved. But, sometimes life puts us in such situations where we have to take certain decisions… and what we do is move on.

Difference between moving on and letting go

Now, you need to understand this that moving on will always leave a part of memories or grudges with you. It will subconsciously make you focus on the negative like am I not good enough, did they ever loved me etc. So, basically externally you moved on from that person but internally you are having a conflict. Deep down you are always thinking and that’s just making you sad. So, doesn’t that mean that you actually never move on from someone… right?

But, when you start letting go (and this is not just applicable for your husband/boyfriend or girlfriend) you accept the situation in a positive manner and are ready to move ahead in your life. You start focusing on better things, on yourself. And the best part is you don’t hold any grudges.

Even if that person has cheated on you or left you when you needed them the most, don’t hold grudges that will only make you vulnerable. They did what they wanted to and you don’t have to do the same by holding grudges.

So, instead of thinking about whom to blame, start focusing on your self , on how you can improve yourself, how can you practice self love, be ambitious, have goals to smash . So that you can proudly say, that I achieved what I wanted to! 😀

I hope I am clear why letting go is much more important than moving on…

Follow me on Instagram- Full_blossomed1

Pulling you out of the dark

Hi! fellow bloggers. My poetic side might come out today. So read at your own risk. Also, it may not be perfect.

I saw You are surrounded by darkness,

I gave you my hand, and pulled you into the light.

You are not able to believe that you are out because of all the scars which have healed from outside but inside they are still there.

But, I am here trying to make you understand that this is real, I am real;

You are confused, I am making you understand that don’t get confused listen to your heart,

You say, you are trying and leave…

I am waiting in front of the golden coloured gate filled with light , ready to walk with you inside it but you don’t come.

I am still waiting, in the hope that one day you will realise…

Though, in reality ONE DAY has not arrived, but still for the sake of completion of this poem let’s imagine the D day has come.

I was sitting in front of the golden door, wearing a white dress, waiting only for you…

And then you were there, smiling at me. I held your hands and took you inside the golden door..

And it was the best day of our lives ❤️

I really hope you guys enjoyed reading this short poem. This is my second attempt at it 🙂

Describing LIFE in one word….

Hello to anyone reading this, if you stumbled upon this blog while googling randomly. I want to talk to you about ‘LIFE’. Now, this won’t be any descriptive blog because I want you to think about a very important question.

The question has been reverberating in my mind from last night. And I have been getting proper sleep from them😬. Why? Because I answered to myself, I described my LIFE in one word. And I got all the answers about my worries and about my tensions.

I don’t want you to answer this question right now, may be you need to learn some things and then you will get an answer. All I want you to do is ‘think’.

I am not going to share my answer here as well. Because this blog is just to make you think and may be you will feel better after that 🙂.

So…. let’s think about the answer and keep it to ourselves. And keep working on yourself. Remember, when you start working on your fears; you rise. You will never fall.

Have a beautiful day!

Follow me on Instagram : Full_blossomed1

If you need help, you can email me at shrutivyas1991@gmail.com.

Comparison with others..

Hello my fellow bloggers and also those who don’t write but stumbled upon my blog because of the topic and may be going to read it till the end. 🙂

Almost all my life I have spent comparing myself with others. Even today when someone else might be thinking that ‘Oh! she is so lucky, doing so great in her life, she is independent and so on’ ; I am here comparing myself to each and every girl on social media.

When I sit with the people of similar interests, I compare “oh she is so good at it, everyone will like her”. But, I forget myself in that process, of how far I have come.

I believe this is a natural human tendency. Our brain functions like that, whenever we see someone beautiful or may be having excellent communication skills we start comparing ourselves with them.

I look at social media accounts of these girls and wonder, oh they have such lean bodies that’s why everyone likes her. She got married, wow she is so lucky to have someone.

And then I start judging them, everyone like her, ‘because she is so beautiful’. She got married, ‘because she is so lean’. Everyone listen to her, ‘ because she has got great communication skills’.

But in the process I am nowhere, I forgot myself!

These comparisons come out of our insecurities.

Now, how can we get over these comparisons and insecurities.

Have you ever looked back at what you were and how far have you come?

Can you change the word ‘comparison with motivation’ ?

Are you doing what you love?

Are you really working on yourself?

Can you stop comparing and start loving the way you are right now.

What would the 10 years back of your age say to you right now, will she be proud of how far you have come, how much you have grown in all these years.

Yes!

She is proud of you, of what you have become after facing and fighting all those challenges. She will remind you of how strong you were in those morbid times. She will be so proud that you are learning a growing.

So, can we stop comparing and start learning from the people who we see on social media, can we make them our motivation and keep our insecurities aside?

It will be difficult but we need to start loving ourselves right now.

Love yourself ❤️

Follow me on Instagram- full_blossomed1

You can email me at – shrutivyas1991@gmail.com

Stay away from negative people

Hi!

I am back once again after a long time as I have been busy. This time with something I beg to differ with a saying “ stay away from negative people”.

Now, I understand not everybody will be able to relate to why I don’t agree with this saying.

We have always been advised to stay away from negative people as negativity is attracted more quickly as compared to positivity. It is also said that people find it difficult to stay positive in life.

But, I say why befriend with someone negative, WHY CAN’T We?

Have you tried to understand why a person is so negative? No, why should I that’s none of my business. Right? We always think in this manner.

There can be various reasons why someone is negative, may be they feel that they have failed, may be something really gruesome happened with them.

My whole point is no one is born negative, the experiences make them so. Yes, I accept that we can take bitter experiences also as a learning but some people are not so mature or are usually crying that why it happened with me.

What if I say why don’t we try to understand why a person is acting in this way, what must have made him/ her like that.

For e.g if you are from India then you must be pretty much aware about the SSR outrage that happened month’s back. So I saw so many people putting up stories on Instagram that why did he commit suicide, he could have talked to someone. I am glad that all these people are so strong mentally, but do you really think they are? NO

These are the same people who will step away from negativity, giving reasons I don’t like to be with such mindset.

Basically, these people are mentally weak themselves and they know that other’s behaviour will affect them.

So, now you know the reason of why someone would like to refrain from negative people.

I don’t say be with them when it starts affecting you, all I am trying to say is keep an open heart for everyone.

Listen, give solutions if you have but most importantly don’t let it affect you.

To whom should you stay away:

Manipulative people and,

People who demean you.

Follow me on Instagram: Full_blosommed1

How not to loose hope and be positive

Hi my fellow bloggers. Today, I have been feeling very impatient because I really want to write something but I am not able to think of any topics.

And I was loosing all hope, even thought of deleting the blog. But, I know writing is something which makes me happy. And that’s how I didn’t loose hope. So, I thought of sharing some activities I do to be positive in life or not to loose hope. And this is not something I do everyday, because I am also learning to look at the positive side of life. And one cannot be positive all the time with so many things happening.

But, all we can do is try….

So here is a list of things which I try to inculcate in my life everyday to be happy and stay positive:

1. Meditation; this is something whenever I do even for 10 mins makes me feel better. Take our your emotions while meditating. Because, those are the emotions which are somewhere hidden deep in you and really needs to come out.

2. Gratitude list; yes you heard it right. Before I used to feel all this is just a waste of time. But, what’s the harm in showing gratitude to the universe and to the people who love you. ( I am very bad at communication and showing my emotions.)

3. Physical activity; any form of physical activity is really important. It helps you focus on your goals. Also, there are many benefits of moving your body.

4. Self care; no it’s not getting pampered in a salon. It’s about internal self care. Self care for me is taking a walk and listening to songs, dancing, doing yoga and eating what I like.

5. Procrastination; stop procrastinating and start doing.

6. Stop discussing people; stop discussing what others are doing in their life. Focus on yourself. Be with people who uplift you or discuss ideas.

7. Comparison; stop scrolling though social networking websites and comparing yourself with others. The grass is always greener on the other side. You don’t even know what they are going through.

8.Read; yes you heard it right. Reading and updating your knowledge is very important. Keep yourself updated.

That’s all for today. I hope this helps you keep focused on what you want to achieve.

I am also thinking of posting daily journal. Do comment if you think I should 🙂.

Broken… being hurt

Being hurt by someone you love is the worst thing ever… isn’t it?

But, being hurt over and over again.. means they have started taking you for granted or they don’t value you or you are just compromising( though, in your mind you just feel ‘they are being broken themselves.. so just let it

They are heartbroken, but that doesn’t give them the right to say hurtful things to you. Because we understand their situation, so in return we always want to treat them with love. But if they don’t understand move on… let them be.

In the end, if something is hurting you, then I would say talk it out. Let them know and then move on…

Soulmate…

Hello fellow bloggers , it’s the first time I have tried my hand at poem. The poem was written in Hindi but I have translated it in English. Though, somewhere there might be loss of originality but still I have tried to retain it. It’s written with a lot of love and emotions. Hope you like it 🙂

Being away from you has made me realise how close I have come to you.

Never , even in my dreams I had thought that this could happen… but now when it’s already done, then it’s permissible to think about you all the time ⏱

Your sweet little face with those almond shaped eyes come in front of me every time, and all I can do is just smile 😊.

I do not know why but when I am with you, I am not able to think about anything because all I want to do is be in that moment and just listen to you (you are so dear to me).

When I see you worrying about something or anything which makes you sad; my heart 💓 says ‘just go and pluck all the thorns from his way’.

Sometimes, I think how can someone come so close but can’t stay. At that moment all I want to do is hold your hand and stop the time.

People might say that it’s the start , may be its attraction but I know it’s not because I don’t expect anything in return from you.

Whether, you are with me in future or not , but I always want to see you happy.

And may be someday you will realise that there is someone who can love you to this extent.

This love is eternal…..

Why me??

We always ask this question in disappointment or when we fail, when we don’t get what we want. WHY ME? But, why do we only ask when things don’t go the way we expected. Why not before we are starting to walk on that path, “ why am I given this particular job, why did he chose me.”

Yes, I know it’s easier said than done. And of course, even I don’t do that. But, the point is when something doesn’t goes the way you want just sit and contemplate about it and ask the below questions or say to yourself –

May be I am so strong that’s why god chose me.

What lesson is he trying to teach me? (Go back and think about the lessons learnt).

Does he wants me to understand and get rid of a particular habit or my emotions to make me a stronger person?

When you start taking every outcome in a positive way whether you failed or passed, you will be one step ahead of others.

Positive attitude is very important in life. We have been born to learn and serve a purpose. So don’t give up.

So, next time when the tables don’t turn your way don’t give up. Just think that I have learnt a lesson and move on with it. 🙂

I hope you enjoyed today’s blog.

BANGALORE – Leaving this city with a smile 😊

Hi my fellow bloggers, I know I haven’t posted anything from quite a while. But I am back. So this blog is going to be about my journey in this beautiful city Bangalore, full of experiences and some sweet and sour memories.

So, finally the day has come to leave everything behind in Bangalore and start a new journey. Sitting at the Bangalore airport with every care taken for Covid, I am here writing my journal which is going to be a part of my blog.

Leaving this city I feel like I am leaving behind a part of me. These 4.3 years have taught me so many things; from professional to personal growth, creating memories, from meeting the best people to moving on from some. Also, I have learnt that how good I can be at managing my personal and professional life (I knew I have this quality but to this extent ☺️. After working for 12-13 hrs then coming back home, working out and cooking my own food. It’s a real task I am telling you).

So, let’s start from the beginning. I came to this city with no expectations. I had a job in hand but money being credited to my account never really excited me! It was more about learning and growing, and I am glad I am still the same.

Fortunately, I had found a roommate who was more than a friend. The sweetest, funniest, and craziest😝. We have had heathy discussions to having unhealthy food at a restaurant 😂.

So let’s start with YEAR 1. This year passed just like that. I learnt so many things in my work place. I met so many people who used to tease me to an extent that you won’t stop laughing.

YEAR 2 was more about meeting some people whom I really wanted to stay with but they never came back. So I learnt to leave them behind and move on in my life. ( which is not easy)

YEAR 3 was more like an emotional roller coaster. From finding a suitable guy for marriage to my professional life, everything was at halt and I was suffering meantally. My mind was blocked and slowly I was sulking into depression and the main reason was I didn’t had any one to talk.

The only good thing was I was taking care of my health. So, there was something which kept me going.

The last and the most memorable year of my life; YEAR 4. Because I met a special person( whom I would call a friend, who is now a part of my memory). Who motivated me write by saying “ when a person writes, they do that with a lot of emotions and experiences. So stop thinking about what people will say or think. JUST WRITE.” And you know these words motivated me, inspired me to write more and here I was with a blog on WordPress. 🙂 He is also the only one who inspired me to find the purpose of my life and showed me the path of spirituality.

So, this is how 4.3 years went by and I didn’t even realise what I have become. Today, when I look back realise I have come a long way. I always used to underestimate my struggles by saying, everyone goes through it, so it’s not a big deal. Yes, it’s true but your mindset during those struggles and your learning is what matters. And everyone’s learning can’t be same. Some may become negative and some may become more positive. It all depends on us how we want to take it.

I just want to summarise my experiences below before ending the blog:

1. Never give up. I would say fall 1,000 times but every time you get up you become stronger.

2. DO NOT STOP WORKING ON YOURSELF, keep on exploring new things. This life is given to us so that we can explore and understand ourselves better also spread love and joy wherever you go.

3. Realise your WORTH.

4. Keep on learning new things.

5. READ

6. Stay away from negativity.

7. Takeout time for yourself.

That’s all for today folks. I hope you enjoyed the blog. 🙂